Rakshabandan....time to run....??

"Rakhi or Raksha is a sacred thread embellished with sister's love and affection for her brother"

Then why run away from it?Well i put this question to a dear friend who was running away from the Rakhi as if it was blessed with some mantra which would do him bad, to this his bland reply was "Why do they want to make me their brother,there was friendship day few weeks back they didn't even wish me and i would have never objected if they were to tie a friendship band, why should i be their brother,not friend?"Well, he has got some substance in his words.But is this the reason why most guys run away..??Not exactly,their are various reasons, various point of views ,various notions and we need to respect them all.There is this girl in my class who desperately wants to tie a rakhi to a guy just because she is being teased by his name and the best part , the guy doesn't want her to tie it!She chased her a full week trying to tie the rakhi and till now not successful,i asked her "what next?" she replies "He's not letting me tie,so i'll tie that rakhi to someone else".I think the whole purpose of rakshabandan has failed for her, and for the many others who just tie it for reasons other than the intended one.It seems girls actually buy rakhis in bulk.As it is said about friends the fewer good are better than the hundred plain friends.

About my rakshabandan,I have always had a very positive attitude towards Rakshabandan from my childhood days even though i didn't understand well the significance of the festival.As a kid, when it used to be rakshabandan time, i used to tell my dad "Papa get a sister for me tomorrow" and i still rememberone year looking through the window,i was waiting for dad and suddenly i saw a bald person walkin by the side of the road with a small girl hand,i was so happy, i ran fast put my best clothes and went down to get disappointed as it turned out to be someone else.Then i asked mom to tie a rakhi for me.I think those days i really felt the absence of a sister in my life.A sister is a sister and a brother a brother , both have their distinct and important role.Never can a sister replace a brother nor a brother replace a sister.

My first Real Rakshabandan was when my cousin sister tied me one.It happened that one year my on account of a holiday cousin sister and her family came to our place and since rakshabandan was around the corner she tied me the first real rakhi.Then i was tied by the daugters of a family friend then by my cousin's wife as she was at my place during rakshabandan and given the fact that she was a Filipino she tied the rakhi and she praised this tradition of India.Next was the train of rakhi's in college.I never felt like running away from the rakhis maybe because that I always wanted a sister, others have sisters and they never understand their significance, or maybe they never felt the need for sisters.

Notional theory : Rakshabandan is a festival , a festival which defines new relationship, a festival which gives meaning to existing relationship.Put your hand forward if u feel so, attempt to tie a rakhi if u feel so.If you want to someone to be a sister/brother a rakhi is not imperative , it is just symbolic.There are so many different relationship between Man and a Woman, they can be good friends, they can be committed partners and they can be brother and sister.None can downplay the importance, more specifically the necessity of any of these relationship, Imagine a world without family, without friends.

Feel it in you heart and only then rakshabandan will be yours.

Happy Rakshabandan To All!!